What's everyone up to?

I'm glad to hear he's doing much better and that he continues to get better. Hopefully he'll be ready to start facing outside soon. I hope you find some time for yourself as well. It's super important to take at least an hour or two here and there just for you. I've gotta say you are brave to have taken on all the gift wrapping. It's my least favorite thing to do during the Holidays. I'm probably one of the world's worst wrappers lol

The bed bit is a bit embarrassing. I was leaning against the footboard of my bed (something I did ALL the time) talking to my hubby when all of a sudden I hear a crack and I'm slowly falling down. I swear it was all in slow mode. My hubby even said it looked slow mode like in the movies. I hit the ground pretty hard though. Fell right onto the piece that broke. it gave me a good gash, huge bruise, and my shoulder was sore. I was already upset over finding something out not even 30 minutes before so when that happened, I completely lost it. It was definitely not my best day lol.

Oh dear, that would have made me lose it too. I hope you weren't too hurt by it all. It's moments like that, that make me happy to know my bed doesn't stand above the ground at all. Sometimes I wish I had space underneath it so I could store things, but no, I'm ok with it being flat on the floor...a solid base.

I've never even considered getting a solid bed like that. I'm going to have to look into it. Would be much safer for me lol

Geeze, that's a bad fall. Glad your mostly okay though!

I've been upset yesterday and today. My friend , apparently is mad the hubby and I didn't visit him. The thing is, his grandmother passed away last week. I've called him and spoke to him a few times. I texted everyday ( not that he responded). I said I'm sorry for his lose and he has my condolences and him and his family are in my thoughts several times, several different ways including on the phone, text messages and facebook messages. I told him if there is anything he needs or I can help him with just to let me know. He said twice he wanted to come over, to get away and I told him he is welcomed anytime and he never showed. I understood.

Then yesterday , the hubby and I were supposed to go to the Maury show with my friend( it's a talk show, baby momma drama , for anyone that doesnt know what the Maury show is). But i canceled with him on Monday. I told him the hubby isn't better with the anxiety/panic attacks and he doesnt think he would be able to handle the trip ( it's a bus ride from NY to CT). I told him i didn't want to risk the hubby having an attack on a bus, in the middle of nowhere and i didnt want to end up leaving them high and dry and also didnt want to waste their two tickets ( they got four free tickets). He said he understood and it's okay.
So the hubby texts him yesterday to ask how the show was and when my friend asked how he was doing the hubby told him he was struggling just trying to distract himself. And basically my friend said if he truly wanted a distraction he would of came, he avoids distractions. And basically making light of what the hubby is going through and saying he is selfish, that whatever he is going through is always more important than other people. He was saying how he's there for us ( which isn't necessarily true, coming over and drinking isn't really being there , he hasn't exactly sat with us in the ER or came to doctors appointments or helped out when Omar was chemo sick) and that neither I or the hubby has visited him since his grandmother passed. Which is unfair. I tried to extend my support in the ways I'm able too. If he truly thinks he knows me, he knows my situation and what I'm stuck with here and doing, and he knows all about Bianca too.

I think it was just unfair and petty of him to excuse the hubby and I of the things he said. THis all exchanged via text message with the hubby too. I spoke to him just the day before, he passed a state exam he went for and I congratulated him and we joked for a bit about our pets via text and he didnt mention nothing to me of his feelings at all, even though i asked how he was feeling. I haven't spoke to him yet, i just have no words.

Did anyone notice how the thread we normally use in the introduction page is gone?

Becca, yah i noticed. And old threads are popping up as "new" and spammers got into active threads. smh. The site is a mess.

sorry for the double post, but i forgot to share a pic of my doggie and her new sweater lol

Tasha: I've been trying to come up with something deep and meaningful to help you out (I hate not knowing what to say to people) but to be honest I think sometimes you just have to be selfish and think of your own issues first. I sucks so much that your friend is going through a hard time, especially losing a family member, it can't be easy. But it's not fair to make you feel bad for putting your own family. I also think it's a little rude to do all this via text messages. I realise technology makes it easier to talk to people, but there is a serious issue it should be dealt with face-to-face. Not only because it eliminates the uncertain aspects of text (you really can't always interpret everything someone says or means) but it's just the better way to approach an issue. I hope that doesn't make me sound like a bitch, but I believe if you've got an issue with someone, it's better to face them head on.

Had an early christmas party yesterday...it was pretty fun, we had tinsel hats and heaps of bon-bons (even though there were only 3 of us) it was a good way to start the christmas week. My sister has her Graduation Mass on tonight. She goes to a catholic university and everyone who graduates in each year gets to attend the mass and they get a cross or something like that. We're not a religious family (you didn't have to be catholic to attend the university) so Mass is not something we do or know...it's going to be an interesting experience. I don't have to go, but considering only 2 people can go to her actual graduation on wednesday (they limit the tickets) I want to go to this one so I can see her get something.

I don't know what to say neither Tasha. I think it was rude of your friend to say that. I mean you were trying to be there for him the best you can right now and he wanted everything to be about him even though your hubby is having a super hard time at the moment. Don't get me wrong, I'm sorry he just lost someone, but sometimes like Kim said, you just have to put yourselves first and he can either understand that or go somewhere else. Sorry, but thats just how I feel. I've had enough friend drama to the point where I'm like if you can't understand something or at least try to understand and instead want to be an ass about things then just go the hell on. But thats just me. I do hope you got/get to talk to him and work things out though. And I agree with kim, it should be face to face if possible.

Kim, how was your sister's Graduation Mass?

It was good, but long and the incense was overwhelming. We're not religious people, but my sister really wanted the cross (which looks super cool) and they ran out of seats before we got there. Well, actually they didn't, they had this area roped off with reserved signs all over it, so we were standing against the wall and all these people who arrived after us were standing in front of us. Then some official decided to move the ropes and let people sit in the seats so all the late arrivers got seats and we ended up sitting on the floor...yep, my parents set a trend, they decided they wouldn't stand for 2.5 hours, and the minute they sat on the floor about 12 people around us did mental shrugs and sat down too.

lol Kim, I would have sat down too. Kind of messed up how all the late arrivers got good seats but those who were there early didn't though.

I'm spending this week super cleaning my house. So far, I've tackled my bedroom and my kids' room. Which were the worst. I'll breeze through the rest of the house pretty quickly.

I've also have had a house/yard full of kids since Friday. Every day a group of kids come over and its starting to drive me crazy. Don't get me wrong, I love that my kids have plenty of friends to play with, but I desperately need a break from them all. On top of that, one of my daughters best friends Luke stayed Friday-Sunday night with us. Friday night his mom was busy and asked. Saturday night he asked. Then Sunday night, we couldn't get ahold of his mom. I finally got ahold of his 18 yr old brother who came and picked him up and then left the poor boy at home all alone! At night!!! While I was in the shower we got a knock on the door and my hubby opened it up to see a crying 8 yr old. My hubby finally got his brother on the phone and explained that that is a MAJOR DON'T! We live in a fairly safe gated neihgborhood, but still. You can never be too safe. I just feel so bad for the boy b/c his mom is a lausy excuse for a mother. She doesn't deserve him. But if I call and report her, theres no telling what will happen to the boy. We keep telling them if you aren't going to be home, just let us know and he can stay here. But no the stupid bitch couldn't even answer her damn phone! If I say something to her, she could tell him not to come over again and we don't want that. And its not liek I can force her to sign over parental rights. Theres not much we can do except be here for him when we can *sigh* its a sucky situation. I just don't understand why some people just don't give a crap about their own kids

Lol Kim, I'm glad the Graduation Mass went well. (Congrats to you sister by the way) I grew up going to Catholic school so i know just how long those events can be.... and standing for them isn't something i would want to do either. I'm glad ur parents are trend starters

Wilda, omg such bad parenting.I got so angry just reading that. I'm really glad that kid has you and family though. Poor kid. And i'm sorry 18 years old is TOO old not to know leaving a kid home alone is unsafe and wrong. Like wth. I would of smacked him. I hate bad parents. My sister has been pissing me off because she hasn't been taking good care of my niece. My niece is disabled, cerebralpalsy. She needs extra care besides what she gets in school. She needs extra attention. SHe needs HER MOTHER to sit down with her and do things like read to her, flash cards, training games. I mean i know my niece is disabled mentally, but she is not stupid. SHe is NEVER going to learn if someone doesnt sit down with her. She is smart, so smart. She just needs someone to invest the time into her. She will never learn if you don't try to teach her. My dad and I taught her some sign language, not real sign language but signals we made up for things. SHe taps her heart to say "love you". She rubs her tummy( sometimes) is she is hungry. SHe waves bye. She tries to hold up her fingers to show her age. Every time she is over we sit we her and talk to her ( she babbles, but we let her babble and ask her to repeat things and she tries and when she gets close to the word we give her a hug or a treat). We just spend time with her you know. But, my sister is content cause she is getting a medical malpractice settlement for my niece next month. She has her head in the clouds. But she does things that piss me off like last weekend we picked up my niece to take her to the mall to see santa clause. No packed bag with diapers. No hat , scarf, or gloves. No toy. Then she had the nerve to call me and say "don't put her hood on, you'll mess up her hair". Like really? Keeping your child warm in the COLD is less important than keeping hair okay? SOme people are just too stupid, imo, to raise children.


And thanks ladies for your words. THey mean alot to me. WHen things like that happen, its tends to weigh heavily on my heart...i feel like * i* did something wrong. But, i talked it out with the hubby and I feel better about that whole incident. We didn't do anything wrong. We tried our best to extend our support. It wasn't enough. It's that plain and simple. And actually yesterday, the hubby and I finished an appointment early and so since we had someone looking after my dog, we tried to GO speak to my friend in person. ( The hubby was extremely sick BTW. He still is actually. WE couldnt make his doctors appointment he was so sick i had reschedule. The only way i can describe it, it's like he is chemo sick, without the chemo.) While at the appt we asked my friend if he was home, he said yeah. We told him we were heading over his neighborhood if he wanted to talk things out. We texted multiple times, called. He never responded. Then late that night he said to make up for today he'll come to us when we are free. But, i'm over it. IF that's the type of friend he;s going to be, then i don't really care honestly. I need a shoulder to lean on, cause quite honestly i love my hubby..he is always there for me and tries his best for me, but most of the time it's his health situations that cause me to need help and he isnt in the position to give it. If a friend isn't going to be reliable for that, than its a waste of my time. This wasn't the first incident with this specific friend. It's like everytime he is in a mood, he takes it out on the two of us, cause he knows we aren't the type to be assholes back.

BTW i should be on a lot more the next couple of days because the hubby and I are flat broke, so the plan is to stay inside and do things to pass the time. I mean there is alot to be done. I have to call up the lawyers program, we just got our membership cards yesterday in the mail and alot of other admin stuff. But, the hubby gets his check next week ish , so we just have to tough it out to then. We mismanaged which put us in this position. I'm really angry about it actually. it was a stupid Christmas present that threw us off budget. They didnt deduct from our bank account automatically. It was an online order two weeks, shipped a week ago, so i assumed once an order is shipped they take their money, which they always do. So i divided up money for the other bills and stuff thinking the balance included the deduction for that christmas gift.But, it didnt. So that threw everything off. But, it's okay. Maybe I'll score some christmas money too lol

Wilda: That's terrible! Who leaves an 8 year old kid alone in a house? I'm glad you're looking out for him Wilda, you're an awesome person for doing that. I'm with Tasha, I hate parents who don't look after their kids properly. They're not like little toys you just dress up and have around to look pretty, they need to be cared for constantly. And not just that, you have to love them. If you're not in it 100%, you shouldn't have kids. That sounds slightly tough, but really, they come first.

Tasha: I hope your hubby feels better soon. I hate hearing that he still having health issues. I keep hoping everything will get better for you guys, or at least slightly easier. I hope the lawyer stuff goes well, glad your membership cards arrived. *fingers crossed* for a little bit of christmas cash to come your way.

My sister and I bought an Aussie Christmas CD yesterday. a couple of years ago we downloaded a few Aussie carols, but then yesterday we came across this double disc CD from the same artists and couldn't resist buying it. They're fun little twists on traditional carols (and some invented ones)....like Jingle Bells: "Dashing through the snow, in a one horse open sleigh" becomes "Dashing through the bush, in a rusty holden ute." Or Deck the Halls: "deck the halls with boughs of holly" becomes "deck the shed with bits of wattle" They're pretty fun carols. There's a whole heap of new ones on the cd though, so I'm going to get my christmas on later today and give them a go

Oh Tasha, I hope your hubby gets to feeling better soon especially on Christmas. I hate how you guys keep having a rough time. Hopefully things will get better soon or like Kim said, at least slightly easier. I wish I could be there for you in person so you'd have someone to lean on. It's times like this that you just need someone to reach out and give you a big hug and let you cry on their shoulder. I know its not the same, but whenever you need those things, just know I'm sending lots of love and hugs your way!

Lol Kim, those Aussie carols sound like fun

My daughter has finally found some girls to hang out with. She stayed the night at their house (sisters) last night. it was the first time she's ever stayed the night with someone who wasn't family without me. She choked back tears when I dropped her off (they live right down the road) and I was ready to bring her right back home. Hell 15 mins after I got home, I wanted to call her. I had to keep myself busy. I even got a little teary eyed at one point. But we both made it through the night. She's been back and forth between their house and ours all morning. Its weird not having her here all day. I'm not used to her going to other kid's houses like this. but tbh the peace and quiet (other than my son's constant car sounds he makes) is nice.

I hope everyone has a fun, safe and happy Christmas and New Years. Enjoy your presents. I hope I get the vouchers I want. Heading out to do reconnaissance and figure what I'll get with them in after Christmas sales.

S Rozhdestvom!!! Nollaig Shona!!!! Buon Natale!!!!!! Joyeux Noël!!!!!!

AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

sorry for the different languages but all of that's just Merry Christmas in Russian, Irish, Italian, and French.

I'm going away for a few weeks from today. I'll probably get a few chances to come online and say hello/catch-up but the only internet I'll have is dial-up and it frustrates me too much to use very often. If I'm lucky my sister will let me use her phone for Twitter, but that's about all I can hope for

Have a fabulous Christmas everyone and I look forward to talking to everyone again heaps in the New Year!

xox

Hope you have a great time away Kim!

Merry Christmas (or whatever Holiday you celebrate) everyone! hope you all have a wonderful day

The Vampire Academy store facebook page posted this and I had to share it:


On the Twelth day of Christmas my true love sent to me....
Twelve Private lessons
Eleven Evil Nazars
Ten Valued Lessons
Nine Roses Blooming
Eight Spirit Users Using
Seven Golden Lillies
Six Strigoi a Hunting
Five Chokti Braclets
Four Guardians a training
Three Molnija Markings
Two Silver Stakes
And Dimitri under my Christmas tree!


Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays everyone!

Merry Christmas to everyone that celebrates it! And if you don't or celebrate something else best wishes to you and hope you have an awesome day!

MY CHRISTMAS WAS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How were everyone Holidays

Wishing everyone a very Happy New Year! Hope everyone has a great weekend!

Hey everyone! Hope everyone had an awesome christmas. Any good gifts this year?

Sorry I havent been on much,been sick and it's a mad house in my house wth mymother and brother off from work on vacation this week. Can't wait til they go back to work.

Well, i just wanted to wish everyone a very very Happy New Year. I look forward to being part of this site in the new year and I'm sooo happy and thankful I had you all in 2011. I couldn't have gotten through this year without you all. HUGS.

Happy New Year's Eve everyone!

Holidays are treating me well, except it's still not exactly summer weather...still pretty hot.
I hope everyone has a fantastic last few hours of 2011 (or day and a few hours...it's only 9 hrs and 47 minutes until 2012 here)

Love you all xox

Happy New Year! Best Wishes for 2012.

It's already 2012 in my timezone.

Kim - I know what you mean. NZ weather was terrible in December. Hardly any blue skies days.
Hoping for a nice January, not that I'll get to be outside much.