new student, any volunteers to show me round the academy? :)x

Tania- i agree that wasn't nice to Wilda. It's something she said, and we all said. And if you choose to share your life situation with us you are to expect our response and just because you may not like our response doesn't mean you can get snippy about it. If you dont want the good AND bad response then you should just say so before hand or before sharing something or just keep it yourself.

Tasha: I understand, afterall, I'm only fifteen, I don't know any better

Lol- i dont mean to come off condescending either. just saying u know.

everyone- i want to ask ya'll opinion on something but i dont have much time, the hubby is almost done with his treatment I'll explain more later. But an ex friend contacted me and wants to talk. I dont know howi feel about it. I agreed to talk. But i dont know what i want to come of it. I let go of all those old friends and stuff especially since ive been so alone through everything with my fiancee. but i also want to be a bigger better mature person and atleast talk about it, for my own resolution. But ill explain more later when i have more time to share the specifics of the situation.

Tasha: Really, I don't know how I can help, especially because of my young age. But I will listen and suggest my opinions to you if I feel it won't do damage. And I feel you should talk to that person, but don't be too blunt or too unguarded about the situation...that's the best I can say...

grrrrrrrr had SO much typed and then messed around and hit the back button

Thanks Tasha as for the ex friend thing, I've been there. All i can say without knowing more info is to just talk and listen. I'm pretty sure you'll know what you want afterwards. And liek Tania said, don't go into it unguarded.

Tania-I'll admit, it not only pissed me off, but it stung. Felt like a slap in the face and I didn't take it too well. It took all I could not to say more. I've told you from the beginning that I'm honest. I try not to be mean. If I were mean or crossing the line, then I could respect you asking me not to say something. I can't tell you how many times I have bit my tongue to keep from being mean or crossing that line out of respect for you. I was even nice and polite to him when he was online. It felt liek you were asking me to lie and I'm not the lying type. If you think the honesty I give you is harsh, then you should hear the truth my best friends get. Sometimes I worry they'll stop being friends with my for it lol. Tania, if I'm crossing the line say so but don't ask me to not say something if you ask for my opinion which you've done from the very beginning. Even when I say you aren't going to like it. My honesty is part of who I am. You can't have me without it. We're a package deal

Wilda: I don't want you to lie or sugar-coat anything. And you were polite to him, and I thank you for that. It's just so recent that things changed between me and him...so it's kinda something that's hard and difficult to deal with...but it's okay. I'm fine, no harm done Wilda. You're like a mom to me and a sister, just like everyone else on here, but I took it too personally. Anyways, blah...I'm kinda bored...

I understand Tania. I think I took it too personally too. But its done and over with. I really am sorry whatever happened happened. I would never wish him to hurt you just cause I never thought he deserved you. A little advice being that things are still raw with him, take things slow with Travie. Just enjoy his company and enjoy being a teenager, and life and just be happy.

Wilda, I am happy. And I do enjoy being with Travie. Thing is...it's kinda too late to take things slowly...-innocent and sheepish smile- but I am going to take it slowly when it comes to him meeting my parents.

*raises eyebrown* I don't think I want to know...Anyways, as much as I would like to say take the physical slowly too ( although i have no right to say anything there), I was mainly talking about the emotional department. Even though controlling that is like trying to control the weather. It's simply impossible lol

Lol, Wilda...the physical department is way too far gone but the emotional is just barely increasing though, so it's okay.

eyebrown lol

I feel like teens are getting way too physical too young these days. Horomones...pfft. Grant it, I wasn't much older than you Tania, but it wasn't but a few months afterwards when i got pregnant. So maybe I view it differently b/c of that. I just know what its like to have your teen years ripped from you and be forced to grow up. So just be responsible and take every precaution you can.

Lol Wilda i'm on the same page with you about Teens, i feel like a grandma sometimes cause of my viewpoint. Its not necessarily about age. It's about maturity but then again we all think we are mature and ready before we really am, including myself.

I completely agree Tasha. I knwo I sure as hell thought I was ready. But guess what, I sure as hell wasn't ready when that test said positive! That's when reality and age really sets in.

Uhmm...my test said negative.......

okay, I don't think my eyes have ever got so wide before. Negative is very good. Be responsible and take every precaution you can hun.

Hey girls! how is everyone tonight,,, I have one hour left then my router dies.. I wish I could be online more:(

Oh man Sam, that really sucks that your router dies at a certain time. How are you? How's school and the job?

Hi Wilda ^_^

I know Blame my parents

Job is great, making smoothies isn't too hard... the only bad part is getting to make all those good looking smoothies and I can't drink them haha.. school is good... I start at FIU in may and june taking two classes as of now ... how is everyone

Wilda: Uhmm...yeah, well...still, the thing is, we do that a little too much sooo...yeah, it kinda hurts at the moment

Good Morning Tania ^_^

Lol, morning Sammy. And, I really hope you didn't see what me, Wilda and Tasha were talking about

Sam, I was wondering why you werent online that much anymore. :-(
Wilda- hiiiiiiiii

Where has Rhia been btw. I havent seen her post in awhile.

Tania- it's none of my business and i dont have a right to say so, but i dont agree with your sleeping with Travie. Especially so soon after a breakup. ANd honestly, all the young people I know in real life feel obligated to sleep with a guy, that its expected and the only way to get and keep your man. Its not true and I hope that's not what you think. I dont think your considering the health factors of being sexually active nor the emotional factors. You shouldn't even need to take a pregnancy test if you are being cautious and smart and taking precautions. There is free contraception, free and confidential birth control. These options are available everywhere and if you are sexually active you should be accessing them and not even need to take pregnancy tests. There are so many diseases and std's out there and not all of them can be taken care of with antibiotics. I hope u stop and think about it.

Tash! I know it sucks and with school its hard to be online during the day... I'm being lazy today.. going to maybe go out to get lunch later but thats it. I'm being a bum today

@Tania I do agree with Tasha... don't think you have to sleep with a guy to stay with them. They should want to be with you whether or not you want to have sex. I'm not telling you not to have sex but I am telling you to be careful and to protect yourself.

Tasha and Sammy: Okay ladies, here's the thing. Me and Travis have been sexually active even before I left Shea. But no, I told him we need to stop, and he said okay. He doesn't mind it, he can live without sex. The only problem we have will be hormonal if we get alone. [i]But[i/] it won't be easy for me to get birth control because of my parents...although, Travis' parents don't mind at all, and they bought him condoms...still do every once in a while. I feel like I'm rambling too much...anyways, we're trying to stop, and I'm happy. Lately, I'm always giggly and everything, lol

@Tania: as long as you are careful and protect yourself and he is good to you then go for it.... but know if he hurts you.. well... so anyways how are you darling?