V-day plans?

Anyone have any special Valentine's Day plans? I'm still working on mine. Most likely dinner and a movie. My husband and I haven't been out just the two of us since my birthday (November) so I'm really looking forward to going out-even though I've never been big on Valentine's Day.

I'm always confused with these holidays. I feel like a hypocrite celebrating because for so so long i campaigned it's stupid to have society dictate when and where to show affection or appreciate to loved one. But with Valentines day specifically throughout high school i celebrated V-day which is awareness about violence against women, an organization started by Eve Ensler who wrote the Vagina Monologues. But, i haven't been very involved in politics since college. And my relationship name, is pretty damn good one. I'm a hopeless romantic and he's that macho hard core metal head typical mechanic I don't show my feelings unless in private type. So, holidays like this i get an excuse to be extra sappy and an extra hopeless romantic. Plus, i love just having the excuse to show my dude off. Lol.

But this v-day were doing things low key because money is tight. think or the corniest things ever - and i'm doing it. Making a playlist of horrendous love songs. Watching a sappy romantic movie ( haven't pick a movie yet). Dressing up but staying in. We're going to get food ( haven't decided if were gunna order out or cook) and set up the table with candles and feed each other. I bought these champagne flutes and were gunna have some bubbly. lol. Corny , yes. Awesome? Definitely.

Since I have no guy it's slightly harder to plan anything for V-Day, at the same time I hate the holiday. While it has some sort of historical meaning attached to it, about 20 years ago here it meant nothing. No-one did anything to celebrate it, and now it's all blown up and people have to think of the perfect gift to get their loved one on that day. Like you Tasha, I'm sort of against having a specific date set aside for you to "celebrate' your realtionship.


At the same time, it's sort of nice that so many people embrace it. It's definitely a way to spread the love. Like with Wilda, if it's a way for you and your husband to have a bit of alone time that's awesome, and I definitely don't want to put a downer on the whole love spreading thing. I think it's sweet that you have something planned.

Lol Kim make it a girls night out day. Or better yet, the world is about me day. I do that every Sunday lol. I need "me" time.

haha I love corny sounds like you guys will have a perfect night Tasha

Peace love n VA wrote:

Lol Kim make it a girls night out day. Or better yet, the world is about me day. I do that every Sunday lol. I need "me" time.

It's my mum and dad's wedding anniversary, so I celebrate that instead. But they didn't get married on that day because of Valentine's Day. No-one made a fuss about it at all back when they were married. Only recently have people been all "AW, that's so romantic." And they're like "Um, it was the date the celebrant was free"

Seriously? that's so weird, it's the day my parents were married too. I thought they were the only ones who would do that. Lol. They've been married since 86 i believe. I asked them why they got married on Vday they were like ah the only day that fit their schedules. Lol. I joke with my dad because he has a BAD memory, i was like u needed to get married on a national holiday so you could remember the anniversary! My mom was like WHAT and my dad ran away . lol.

Lol, that's awesome! I know these days lots and lots of people would try and marry on V-Day, but I sort of like it better when it's not planned around a holiday of romance, that it's just another day that meant something special to the couple instead of the rest of the world

If i was ever to get married, it would be the same day we started dating. Like my bf now, our annvi is July 24th...i would want to get married on that date. To me, nothing is more special then the day that started it all...

That's pretty sweet. And at least you've had practice at remembering your anniversary then

I'm actually going to a dance that weekend with friends. the hole romance thing it's good if you have someone but i mostly just have it has a time to enjoy and love life.

Lol Kim, i''m terrible at remembering dates... in complete honesty i only remember my friend's b-day from facebook reminders lol

Oo Tori have fun at the dance... i havent been dancing since summer :sigh:

Peace love n VA wrote:

Lol Kim, i''m terrible at remembering dates... in complete honesty i only remember my friend's b-day from facebook reminders lol

Oo Tori have fun at the dance... i havent been dancing since summer :sigh:

I remember some of my friend's birthdays (like the ones I've known for years and years) But facebook is DEFINITELY helpful when it comes to the rest of them.

aw thanks i will.

I'm slightly irritated because the friends i have had for YEARS we recently ( maybe not that recently) have stopped being friends. But it took me years to remember and when i finally got it down packed we aren't friends anymore. I have one friend for 8 years but her's is easy.. Halloween. lol.

I' never went to my school dances .. i wish i would of now but in my defense my school was a SMALL charter school.. 500 students total. So, not very appealing to see the people i see everyday all day lol.

Ugh, that sucks...It's sort of a wasted effort trying so hard and then having no use for it. I bet you still remember the friend's birthday though, just because it took you so long. Where you really close before you became un-friends? Because that's even worse, when you think the person is your closest friend and then it turns out they're not.

We never had dances at high school, my school didn't seem to like those sort of things. The last school dance I went to was in primary school (elementary school)

Yeah we were really good friends since 2002. Best friends... our little gang..lol. But, i didn't support their life changes. I never judged and still loved/cared for them and respected their decisions.. but i didn't support their actions. One of them turned hardcore stoner. I just asked him to not smoke around me- but he still did. When i told him how i felt and what i think he should do to get his life together he cursed me out and we stopped being friends. The other was in this awful relationship- all i asked was we hang out without and not around her bf- but whatever we did will always end up being about her bf( bringing him food, going to his job, going to her house and he was there etc)
The other didn't like my bf- which is fine friends don't have to like each others boyfriends just respect boundaries. She didn't respect boundaries.

It's funny to me though, because we still have mutual friends and i still find out things about them and they all ended up taking my advice, the advice and opinions they stopped being my friend for.. like the stoner is no longer a stoner and took my advice on how to improve his life. And the bad relationship one, split up with her boyfriend and moved back in with her mom. Lol.

aw lol yeah i want to go to more dances theres like 1800 kids at my school.

I guess you should be lucky you know why your friend's broke up though. One of my best friends quit high school suddenly (or not so suddenly, she was skipping school a lot so we all kind of expected it) and then she just stopped talking to pretty much everyone in our group. The worst part was that she lived (and I think, maybe she still does) across the road from me, and even though my sister and I made an effort to still talk to her she just never tried back.
We all still sort of talk to her though, she comes to important gatherings and then everyone falls over themselves to make sure she's up-to-date with all the happenings. I always wait for her to come over to me now, because if she won't make any effort at all I'm not going to waste anymore time on her.


Aw, you're lucky having such a large school population so that dances are an option.

Definitely agree with you there Kim. Friendships are supposed to be 50/50. In like your situation, i felt it was more like 80- 20. But, i put up with it because i loved those fools. But it somehow got twisted to where i was the 20 and they were the 80. They pulled a fast one on me. I still don't understand what happened. It sucks too because I made a face book over the summer but really started to use it a few month ago...and people from high school and stuff are getting back in contact with me.. and of course...always ask how they are. I then have to try to explain we're not friends anymore.

So yesterday, i went to the store and bought 4 V-day cards. And i bought the champagne flutes i saw in the dollar store.. tinted red with hearts on it. I wrote a poem last night to write into one of the cards for my boyfriend. And i went threw my cable and on the music ondemand channel they have v-day specials compilation- with like 15- 20 minutes worth of love song music videos. things are shaping up nicely without that much effort. lol.

Aw, sounds like you're going to have a really nice day.

It is terribly hard to surprise someone you live with. Lol. I just typed up a poem for him and wrote it in a card... i was peeking over my shoulder every two seconds to make sure he wasn't looking. I'm also paranoid the surprise will be ruined because i just remembered one of my bf's friend is a musician and he makes beats. So i text messaged him to see if he has a track that could go with my poem. Every time my phone goes off, my heart skips a beat. LOL. I'mma have a new gray hair by the end of this.

Take deep breaths, it'll all be over in just a few short days.

Lol, i made things simple. I kicked him out of the room for a few hours. Made him go hang out with my brother. Card is written and sealed. Song is downloaded and hidden on the computer. And all the evidence of correspondence ( text messages and emails) erased. Felt kinda cool to be on a secret mission. lol.

ooo...sneaky. Did you sing Mission Impossible music to yourself?